Well Day 2 is here and I know you are going to find today's challenge super useful, scroll down to find the daily takeaway. If you have any questions don't worry I am here to help, simply click on the Contact page and let me know how I can help or message me through the Looloo Facebook page
Tomorrow we will work on how to actually start getting out of daytime nappies. For now...
Let's address the "elephant" in the room.
What is your biggest worry when it comes to toilet training?
Have you been listening to friends horror stories about their kids embarrassing wee and poo accidents or frustrations around their stubborn toddlers refusing to use the loo?
Do you have a boy and are thinking where do I start?
Are you worried that using a potty will create another obstacle and really just want to get your kid using the loo from day 1 instead?
Are you waiting for your kid to read their body signals and let you know they are going to wee before you dive in with toilet training?
Fears and questions are a normal response to a new milestone. Let's face it in the first 3 years of a child's life, we as parents have to navigate a lot of uncharted territory. It is important that your child does not feel anxious around abandoning day time nappies and doing a wee in the toilet or potty. If they are worried they are more likely to hold on to wees, have tantrums or demand to have a nappy back on.
The key is to communicate that using the toilet is a normal part of everyday life. 1-3 year olds learn fastest through play. Instead of worrying and dreading, put your energy into making getting poos and wees in the loo a fun game to be enjoyed.
One thing I have found is that so much of toilet training is not actually about your child using the toilet, it is really about how you manage and react to the challenges that define whether this process is going to be long and drawn out or not.
Sometimes we can second guess ourselves and over analyse things. Today I am going to address three myths:
1. That your child needs to tell you they are going to do a wee before they start toilet training
Most 1-3 year olds who are in nappies full time find it difficult to read their body signals. Instead you will find that they will learn to preempt that wees are about to arrive and they need to go the loo, when they start using the toilet or potty everyday. It is then that they make a connection between brain and bladder and over time it becomes subconscious.
Until then it takes time and practice and this is not something you can teach, but rather it is something that they will figure out for themselves. Just because your toddler doesn't run up to you waving their hands saying wees take me to the loo, don't put off starting toilet training.
2. That your kid is going to be accident free
Anyone who tells you their kid has never done a wee on the floor or in their pants is either lying or very very fortunate.
3. That the potty creates another barrier and it is easier to toilet train straight to the loo
I want you to know that your child will have wee accidents and that it is a normal part of the process.
Do you remember when your child started walking? They fell over and struggled until one day suddenly it clicked and with hands out stretched they made those few wobbly, tentative steps towards you.
It is just like that with toilet training. They learn to read their body signals while toilet training, they will have some accidents when they start off, but eventually it will become so automatic that they won't even need to make a conscious effort to follow the steps when using the loo.
Over the next few days, I will walk you through the steps to start your child on the journey towards daytime dryness, regardless of their age or stage.
Later when you do start abandoning nappies and a wee or poo accident happens remember to breathe...keep breathing.
Remove all pets and children from "the area".
Say a simple phrase like "remember wees are for the toilet" to your child. Then say nothing, nada, ziltch... don't lecture, yell or groan. Give as little attention to your child's accident as possible. Save your energy for encouraging them when they have got "the business" on the toilet or potty.
When it's clean up time:
Remove the "solid" matter. If possible, flush it in the toilet and show your child where the poo is supposed to go.
Pour on the carpet cleaner. The key is not to scrub or wipe but instead just dab the stain.
Here's my Mum's favourite recipe that she used when we were kids and now I use at our place.
Today's Takeaway Task
Your takeaway for today is to grab a glass jar and make up some carpet cleaner to add to your "Toilet Training Tool Kit". That way when you start toilet training later on and your child does have an accident you will be able to remain calm.
I get asked this allllll the time, as in at every workshop that I facilitate.
Should I toilet train using a potty or can I go straight to the toilet?
Before I started toilet training my son. I remember vividly going to a playgroup where the potties were lined up with several kids going through the toileting journey. They were accessible and waiting by the play area. But I have to admit I found them really gross. In my mind I determined never to use a potty. I didn't want to be cleaning a potty or taking it everywhere we went.
Fast forward 10 years and I have become a bit of a potty convert.
There is a place for using a potty as part of the toilet training journey. Here's why the potty is a great tool to help you make the transition from nappies to underwear a smooth one: Continue HERE