Potty Training Problems: What to do when toilet training is not working or they regress


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I hate daylight savings, it's sooooo hard when my child is finally in a great sleep routine to then suddenly one weekend change the times of when they have to go to sleep. I feel like sleep with a toddler can be like walking a tight rope where if you get out of balance there is going to be a crash.
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I really value my time at night in the peace and quiet, to watch the shows I love, chat with hubby and try not to snack too much! So when my child is up in my "adult time" when they normally go out like a light at 7pm, I get a bit annoyed.
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Not to mention if they start waking at night, when my body has got used to 7 hours uninterrupted.
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Now don't get me wrong, I love my kids and I wouldn't trade them for anything but I feel like regression is really hard to deal with. 
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If regression in sleep is my worst nightmare....then a kid going backwards with toilet training can be infuriating!
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This blog is written for you, the parent whose child started off great, but somewhere along the line the "wheels have fallen off" and you have had to give in to the nappy demands just to keep the peace. Or to stop them being constipated or to stop them being distressed.
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If you're feeling in the "guilt zone" then don't.  As far as I'm concerned there's enough guilt that we can heap on ourselves to measure up to the amazing Mum/Dad that we know or want to be without me adding to it.
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As parents, we can all put our hands up to say that if we had done things differently, things might be different. We can get too much in to our own heads and feel that we must measure up to this perfect standard we have set for ourselves.
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Overthinking it. Maybe there is something that we as parents have done that has lead to our child sliding backwards in the toilet training progress. 
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Here's a truth to tell yourself today: "My child is learning".
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That's it.
The novelty and enthusiasm for using the toilet may have wained and they realise that it is actually a lot more effort to leave their game and go find a toilet. Weeing in a nappy in the play area is awfully convenient. 
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With lots of kids toilet training well into the 2's and 3's it's no wonder that it takes time to break the nappy habit for good. 
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Before we dive into some takeaways I would love you to think on this...
Does my child love brushing their teeth? Eating vegetables? Putting their shoes on before we go out? Insert normal everyday thing that is not very exciting.
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Do you sometimes just have to insist that they do it even if today they don't feel like it? Because at the end of the day it's just one of those things that's good for them...After your child has a tantrum and yells saying no they don't feel like brushing their teeth today, what do you do?
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Toilet training can fall into that category sometimes. It is important not to be ruled by how your child feels at any given moment because their motivation or interest in doing things will change through the week. But this is not always a reason to wave the white flag and give up. Putting them back in nappies full time is absolutely necessary for a small proportion of children. But for a whole lot....
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they are just learning....
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Here are 3 questions I like to ponder:
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1. Ask "why"
If you can get to the bottom (excuse the pun) of why they are refusing to use the loo then this will help give you insight into how you can best support them.
It could be many factors but the most common tend to be:
a) a change of routine ie new room at daycare, new baby, family holiday etc
b) inconsistent routines with toilet training by the different adults looking after them
c) fear - they are scared or worried about something in their everyday life or with the toilet specifically
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2. Ask "what has worked before?"
What were the effective strategies and potty training techniques that your child responded well to when you first started toilet training. Can you go back to using some of those again?
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3. Ask "where to next?"
In other words, what action steps are you going to take from now on to best support your child. For your family right now it might be that you need to put a pause on toilet training because your child has medical issues or emotional distress. 
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For some kids though they know all of their parent's "tricks" that they have used in the past to convince them to use the loo and that no longer has any effect.
If you would like someone to talk to and some help with putting together a plan for the next month to get your child back on track then book a private coaching session. Let's work together click HERE
I want you to leave this blog knowing that your child will make it, they will be toilet trained and don't give up. When they walk down the hallway and you hear that sound of the loo flushing, after they have finally cracked the toilet training gig and have started initating toilet visits independently.
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No more tantrums or avoidance. That day, you feel you've won.
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Before you know it you'll remember toilet training as a distant memory. Don't give up hope!