How to Start Potty Training a 1-2 Year old Toddler


Kids picture book about toilet training
These days everyone seems to have an opinion, your daycare teacher, mother-in-law, coffee group friends, the mummy FB groups. Do this...don't do that....this is the way I did it...but do what you feel is right. Ahhh is can feel like a minefield.
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Toilet training is a topic that evokes a lot of passionate debate. But the facts are this, as a society we are toilet training our kids later. Back in the "old days" in the 1980's or earlier most kids were fully toilet trained by 18 months of age. So what's changed? 
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There are many factors that come into play. With so many parents working for paid employment from when their kids are 6 or 12 months of age and putting their kids in daycare, it is hard to find the time to toilet train at home. There has also been an increase in the effectiveness of disposable nappy technology with companies developing so called 'disposable training pants' to keep kids in disposables for longer. There are a lot of articles and experts out there telling parents to just "wait until the child is ready". This is causing parents to put off the decision to toilet train their kids until they are closer to 3 years of age, with the hope that they will just grow out of wanting to wear nappies.
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But if you are thinking about toilet training your 1 or 2 year old it is totally possible. Don't feel held back because your child is not preempting wees are about to appear or that they don't have amazing language skills yet. You can find out whether it is the right time for your kid to kick the daytime nappy habit by checking out the signs of readiness chart and 5 day getting started challenge HERE.
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If your child is under 2 then be aware that it may take longer for your child (than an older child) to become independent with their toileting. Parents who start toilet training their 1 year old tell me that although they can release wees and poos on the potty, they often need lots of reminders of when to go. They depend on parent help with getting on and off the toilet, pulling up and pushing down pants and remembering to go regularly and not hold on.
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This is something that Dr Steve Hodges from Wakefield University Hospital found in his research. What I found interesting is how kids who are younger need to be careful to release poo so they do not become constipated.
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Those children who spend a lot of time with no nappies on, use cloth nappies or absorbent underwear; are far more aware of their toileting behaviour and therefore the transition out of daytime nappies does not feel as daunting. The feeling of wet close to their skin helps them to learn cause and effect. These are the ones I recommend click HERE.
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Little girl using a potty
Using a potty obviously makes the "mechanics" a whole lot easier. It can also be moved closer to the play area to reduce the chances of a tantrum. These are the ones I recommend click HERE
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In the 5 day challenge I talk about the importance of introducing the language and skills of toilet training with 1 and 2 year olds BEFORE you go cold turkey on the nappies. Stories are a great way of introducing the process of using the toilet or potty in a way that feels relaxed for our little people. 
I love supporting fellow kiwi Mum business'. Tamsyn and Fiona from Hamilton, New Zealand wrote a book to help kids before they start or during toilet training.
This week I had a chat with Tamsyn who co authored Sophia and Mason Learn to Use the Loo.
Hi Tamsyn, lovely to talk with you today.
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How did you come up with idea of writing a kids book about using the toilet?
"Fiona has worked in early childcare for the past 13 years and is still living in Hamilton working with children.  I lived overseas working in the fashion and music industry for 8 years based in Europe.  I came back to NZ in 2005, and had  two children my daughter Sophia and son Armani. 
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When Sophia was younger I was trying to get her into a bed from a cot and was having real difficulty.  I thought I would write a book (on my computer) print it out and read it to her, and it worked!!!
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A little while after that I decided with Fiona to write a series of books to help with children's stages/changes that maybe hard for them/and or the parent, and the loo book was obviously one of these."
Sophia and Mason kids book
Why did you decide to write Sophia and Mason Learns to Use the Loo? 
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"As this was one of the changes that can be extremely difficult for the child and the parent/caregiver."  
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Where did the idea of the characters come from?
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"The character ideas are based on Tamsyn's daughter (Sophia) and Fiona's nephew (Mason)."  
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How can parents use this book to help with toilet training? 
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"Reading or introducing a child to a new concept is very important before it happens.  This way the child feels a lot more comfortable and confident about this change;  It has been proven to lessen the anxiety in the child surrounding the change."
Get a copy of this book sent to your house HERE